Perfectionists exist in all walks of life.
We encounter them every day—in our offices, in our homes, in the mirror. While perfectionists are often very accomplished, constantly striving toward unattainable goals can be a serious roadblock to good health, happiness, and success.
Perfectionism doesn't mean perfect. Far from it.
Perfectionism is defined as “a tendency to set standards that are unreasonably high and to measure an individual’s worth in terms of ability to meet these standards.” In reality, perfectionism is deeper than that.
If you’re ready to start making positive changes in your life or simply better understand the perfectionists in your life, I’m here to help you. Let’s get started!
—Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo
Does any of this sound like you?
Many of us have one or more perfectionistic thought patterns or behaviors that negatively impact our lives on a daily basis.
You see your life in black-and-white terms.
“I did not get the promotion; I am a failure.”
“I ate one cookie and ruined my diet; might as well eat the entire bag.”
You’ve made up tons of rules for yourself (and others) that you may not even know you’re following.
“I should be in better shape.”
“She should call me more.”
“He should do the dishes since I cooked dinner.”
You give up before you’ve even tried to do something, like take on a challenging assignment.
“I failed in the past, so why risk trying again?”
“If it’s never really going to happen, then why bother?”
What do you think? Are you a perfectionist?
My guess is that whether or not you saw a little of yourself in the examples above, they're thought-patterns that you recognize. You may recognize some of these habits in your friends, family, or co-workers. Remember...perfectionists exist in all walks of life.
Better than Perfect
7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love
By Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo
Perfectionists exist in every walk of life. While outwardly they appear to be very accomplished, they are often unhappy and unfulfilled. Perfectionists strive toward unattainable goals, and their behaviors can wreak havoc on both their physical health and their psychological well-being. Timely and transformative, Better than Perfect by Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo offers step-by-step instructions for perfectionists to find balance and freedom. The book defines perfectionism in easy-to-understand terms, offers simple assessment tools, and shares case studies of Lombardo’s patients to highlight the condition. Also included are practical exercises and suggestions for behavioral changes, including seven ways to overcome perfectionism that range from choosing passion over perfection to remembering you’re more than what you do.
With the ultimate goal of helping readers achieve happiness and prosperity without the stress of making sure things are “perfect,” Better than Perfect is a fundamental guide for all perfectionists seeking new, fulfilled, and empowered lives.